Helpful advice for international students: When homesickness is a little further away
Credit: JEN DOEDE
Students feeling homesick can meet other students through clubs and services offered at Fanshawe.
I have always considered myself quite a foodie; I am open to eating all different kinds of foods, however, there is nothing like food from home. For me, home is Malaysia. There are a variety of restaurants in Kelowna, but the choices are limited when it comes to Malaysian food. Although this was hard as I missed the food I was used to, it gave me the chance to get out and taste and learn different kinds of foods, which helped distract me from missing home. There were times during my first year when I constantly craved food from home. I overcame that by cooking with friends. Not only did that help me improve my cooking skills, it also made another pathway for communication with my family, as I got to ask them for recipes and update them about my life.
“I worried about being the only weird one for feeling such homesickness, but knowing that there were friends I could talk to about my feelings, made me feel less lonely and some became as close as family.”
At times, the distance can get the best of my emotions and that’s when the homesickness really hits. I find that the best thing to do when this happens is to stay busy. Look for a hobby around campus, or even a part-time job. I joined a dance team, and that helped a lot with time-management and staying fit. Being able to find a regular hobby made time pass a little quicker and gave me less time to overthink things that were stressing me out.
Finding the right group of friends is another way to help with the homesickness. If you’re too shy to greet someone when walking past the hallways, just a smile will do. A smile goes a long way! As I lived in residence my first year, having the feeling of being in a community itself made me feel comfortable and at home. I worried about being the only weird one for feeling such homesickness, but knowing that there were friends I could talk to about my feelings made me feel less lonely, and some became as close as family to me.
All in all, making the best out of a situation is always an option to strongly consider. As an international student, there is no doubt that we will miss our families back home, but being around the right people and doing the right activities can help ease the pain and help make university abroad a great experience.