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Is it time to do the horizontal mambo?

Ivana Pelisek | Interrobang | Opinion | February 22nd, 2010



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You've been seeing each other for only a short few weeks, but the make out sessions couldn't be any steamier.

Clearly it's time to start ripping clothes off and just get horizontal already, right?

Hold those hormones for a minute — you may think you want to get down and dirty with your significant other faster than your back can hit the bed, but have you actually taken the time to figure out if this is something you both truly want?

Or is this one of those in-the-moment kind of a things...why the hell not?

The foreplay has been fantastic and this person's got all your hot buttons figured out so well that you want to give it up right then and there. But we all know having sex with someone for the first time can be an awkward experience.

You want to skip the build-up and go straight for the goods, so to speak.

But jumping right into bed with someone can have its downfalls.

If your make-out sessions have been almost orgasmic on their own then by all means keep at it. Why not add a little excitement and spice it up from time to time though, allowing your partner to explore other parts of your body with other parts of their body. Not necessarily suggesting you jump right into the act.

Sure, sex will be on your mind. Let's not kid ourselves here. But the anticipation can be a hell of a lot steamier.

When it comes right down to it we all want to be perceived as a goddess in the sack, but as we also know, a new partner can bring some uncertainties and maybe even some insecurities.

Plus, by not prolonging the wait — it's just done. Over with...now what?

Even though the hot and steamy makeouts have been extraordinary, don't overdo it when you finally make it to the bedroom. You may have read all your Kama Sutra books and have positions memorized front to back, but keep things simple the first time around. There is no need to go out of your comfort zone; considering it may not even end up the way you want.

Keep things to a minimum. I mean it's obvious the two of you must like each other somewhat if you're considering shacking up. So take it slow and see what develops.

Don't be afraid to talk about what it is you want and expect from your partner. If you're perhaps too scared to discuss what the aftermath may bring you both, then maybe you're not as ready for sex as you may have thought.

The same way women think they need to be a wild child in the bedroom is the same way a man feels when he wants to satisfy your every need. When you're both participating in the act the first few times around, you don't know each others moan zones just quite yet. You need to allow for a little time to pass before you become completely comfortable with voicing what you want from your partner, without worrying that it sounds weird.

Popular to contrary belief, men have a hard time performing when they're unsure if they are pleasing their partner or not. This is why talking and taking it slower rather than over-the-top crazy comes in handy...at least the first few times.

Voice your opinions and make sure you are both on the same page before you engage in something that will ultimately change how you view your relationship. If it is important enough to you, then waiting should not be a problem.
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